Module 3

Do I naturally rescue or help?

Rescuing

One of the ways we can get caught up in helping others is through rescuing behaviour. It can be energy draining and may cross boundaries. This reflection helps you consider when help is truly needed.

Rescuing checklist

Mark each of the statements below as it applies to you.

Statement 1
1.

I find it hard to take time for myself and have fun

Statement 2
2.

I supply words for others when they hesitate

Statement 3
3.

I set limits for myself which I then exceed

Statement 4
4.

I believe I am responsible for keeping or making others happy

Statement 5
5.

I tend to do things for others that they can do themselves

Statement 6
6.

I believe others are not sufficiently grateful for my help

Statement 7
7.

I take care of others more than I take care of myself

Statement 8
8.

I find myself interrupting when others are talking

Statement 9
9.

I make excuses for others, either openly or mentally

Statement 10
10.

I look for clues on how to be helpful to others

Statement 11
11.

I do more than my share and work harder than others

Statement 12
12.

When others are unsure or uncomfortable, I step in quickly

Statement 13
13.

I give up doing things because others would not like it

Statement 14
14.

I find myself thinking that I know what is best for others

Statement 15
15.

I think others would have difficulty coping without me

Statement 16
16.

I use the word “we” and then find I don’t have others’ agreement

Statement 17
17.

I stop myself from saying what I think others will feel bad about

Statement 18
18.

I find it hard not to respond to anyone who seems hurt or in need

Statement 19
19.

I find myself being resented when I was only trying to help

Statement 20
20.

I give advice that is not welcome or accepted

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